Someone Other Than a Mother

Flipping the Scripts on a Woman's Purpose and Making Meaning Beyond Motherhood

Someone Other Than a Mother
Erin S Lane
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Hardback
h210 x 140mm - 256pg
26 Apr 2022 US
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9780593329313
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Theologian Erin S. Lane overturns dominant narratives about motherhood and inspires women to write their own stories. Cultural scripts about motherhood are so deeply ingrained that we' ve come to accept them as universal truth, putting moms on an impossible pedestal and shaming childless women and nontraditional families for not measuring up. We' ve all heard these lines before- . "Parenting is the toughest job in the world. " This idea undermines the work of non-moms and puts pressure on moms (because the burden still falls disproportionately to women) to make parenting their full-time gig. . "It' ll be different when you have your own. " Not only does this idea diminish the love of non-biological parents, but it pushes parents to go it alone, when in fact children are a gift best shared. . "Family is the greatest legacy. " For many, children are the ultimate sign of a life well lived, and successes in other areas are discounted, but this book explores how women are making meaning beyond mothering and leaving a legacy predicated on more than DNA. Interweaving Lane' s story with those of others who also chose to go off-script-including singles and couples, stepparents and foster parents, the infertile and the ambivalent-Someone Other Than a Mother creates a vision for a woman' s life that affirms the beauty of motherhood while decoupling female purpose from procreation.
"Beautiful and clear-eyed, this book clears out the rubble of our culture' s baggage about motherhood to make room for a kinder, more honest account of love in all its forms. " -Kate Bowler, New York Times bestselling author of No Cure for Being Human "Smart, witty, and moving, Lane' s deft blend of history and memory forces us to reconsider the cost of conflating womanhood and motherhood. She reminds us that love is not defined by biology, and-through the raw honesty of her own story-shows us the value of making parenthood a choice for women rather than a destiny. " -Beth Allison Barr, author of The Making of Biblical Womanhood "Erin Lane is a guide of uncommon revelry and reverence. Think Elizabeth Gilbert with a theology degree-curious, clever, and ever-evolving. Feminists of many faiths-and those in the making-will feel deeply seen in this story of finding contentment and conviction in a purpose other than procreation-and motherhood writ large. " -Melody Moezzi, author of The Rumi Prescription "Erin Lane has written an important book that gently and courageously addresses an often unvoiced question women ask themselves: can I be a whole person if I choose not to be a mother? She draws insight from her spiritual heritage and shares meaningfully from her own life. I consider her work essential reading to remind all of us that our choices are both holy and our own. " -Julie Bogart, author of Raising Critical Thinkers "With humanity, vulnerability, and humor, Lane boldly and astutely rewrites the scripts of motherhood so that all women might have the opportunity to choose what a life well-lived means to them. This book is a whole-hearted healing balm for everyone who has struggled with the absolute messages she has received about motherhood and the truth she feels in her heart. " -Rosie Molinary, author of Beautiful You "As a woman of color, a mother, and a clergy person, I found Someone Other Than a Mother deeply true and resonating. By rewriting the social scripts around motherhood, Erin Lane affirms those of us who feel outside the acceptable spectrum of womanhood and makes room for something more capacious, joy-filled, and humanizing for all. " -Mihee Kim-Kort, author of Outside the Lines "This book is an invitation to all of us, mothers and non-mothers alike, to refuse to be categorized and to embrace our God-given wholeness. The wisdom here is a gift. " -Micha Boyett, author of Found "I cannot get enough of Erin Lane' s words. Readers of Someone Other Than a Mother will relish in her pleasurable, disruptive, and inclusive invitation to be free of the archaic mother scripts and thrive as ' bare-faced human souls together. ' " -Cara Meredith, author of The Color of Life
Erin S. Lane is a theologian and author of Lessons in Belonging from a Church-Going Commitment Phobe. She earned a master' s of theological studies with a focus on gender studies from Duke University and is a vocational retreat facilitator alongside Parker J. Palmer at the Center for Courage & Renewal.
Status: Indent title, imported to order
ISBN-13: 9780593329313
Published: 26 Apr 2022
Published In: United States
Imprint: Tarcherperigee
Publisher: Penguin Putnam Inc
Format: Hardback
Height: 210mm
Width: 140mm
Pages: 256

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